Having worked with many parents and seeing their children grow up in my office, I thought I would take a moment to share 6 lessons I’ve learned. My intention is to share some knowledge, best practices, and let you know that you are not alone.
Lesson 1: Development is not a race
Although this is the age of fast food and high-speed Internet, growing up doesn’t have to be a race. Take the time to be with your child. Go for a walk with them, have dinner with them, play together, and share your experiences about your growing up with them.
Lesson 2: Start family traditions
Traditions don’t happen overnight, so take the time to let this lesson happen. Family traditions promote exchanges that strengthen bonds of love and intimacy and build confidence in your child that will last a lifetime.
Lesson 3: What is encouragement?
Encouragement is not the same as indulgence and recent studies have shown that indulgence actually deflates your child’s motivation and diminishes their feelings of success. It does mean giving your child courage to succeed. Unconditional love encourages your child to take chances, to experiment, and to fail without judgment.
Lesson 4: Symptoms: What is your body telling you
A symptom is the body’s way of letting you know something has to change. A lot of times we think too much and tend to be afraid of our own (or our child’s) feelings in our body. For example, if your child has a fever, the temperature is simply the body’s way of trying to deal with what’s happening. Take a look at what other symptoms your child has. Are they playful? If so, you may not need to suppress the fever, as the body is trying to make metabolic heat to mobilize the immune system.
Lesson 5: Being prepared
Preparedness is a state of readiness that is fueled by confidence or fear. Being healthy does not mean your child will never getting sick. It means their body’s immune system is resilient and has learned how to get sick and get better. When your child does get sick, practice natural ways to support them such as: good nutrition, hydration, rest, and exercise.
Lesson 6: Trust: You’re the expert when it comes to your child
When it comes to raising a child, remember you’re the expert, trust yourself. Nowhere is this more apparent than with a newborn. Take a look into your baby’s eyes. Imagine what they are thinking with no language to communicate or labels placed on them by others. This is what the Buddhists call “beginner’s mind.” Your baby is content, smiling, and loving the time with you. You’re doing fine.